When we are first born, all we have in this world are our parents. Without them, we wouldn’t be where we are today. The people we look to for support and guidance are our parents. They should always keep us safe and make sure the kids follow our rules. However, we humans are all capable of making mistakes.
Everything a parent does and how they do it becomes an integral part of their child’s psyche. How you interact with your child becomes their inner voice.
It tells them what is right and what is wrong. As children, we don’t think of our parents as “just people,” we see them as more than that.
These people we call mom and dad are our creators, guardians, and protectors. In our eyes, children are gods and goddesses; There is nothing that parents cannot do.
If you are constantly angry and cold with your children, they will continue to be so when they are adults. What you do to them, they will do to themselves later. We all make mistakes, if you are making mistakes now, why not take the time to correct them?
We want our kids to have an inner voice that doesn’t bully them. If you are friendly and encouraging with your child, they will recognize this as their inner voice; This will prove to be far more effective than having an inner voice that seems worthless to them.
The phrases below are words you should NEVER say to your children, no matter how angry you are or what they have done.
“STOP CRYING RIGHT NOW!”
Even if your baby doesn’t have a reason to cry at the time, don’t be fooled into thinking you can’t stop crying.
They can’t control their emotions, and if you tell your child that, you’re programming them to not be emotional. They will eventually overwhelm everything. In this situation, you should try to say something else.
Like, “It’s okay to cry, but you need to realize what you did wrong.”
It will take you further.
“I’M HERE FOR YOU!”
That’s the worst thing a parent can say to their kids when they’re in trouble and upset about themselves and everything they’ve done. Help your child find the right path without discouraging them when they do something wrong.
“What you did was wrong, let’s talk about it okay?”
“YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH OF [SOMETHING]!”
Telling your child that something is missing can hurt inside or out. Even if you don’t specifically say they’re inadequate, you’re saying they’re inadequate. If you don’t get rid of it quickly, it will make your child feel inadequate in life. Say, “You’re good enough, we can work harder on it.”